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When The Chips Are Down...

Updated: Jul 4

I have always tried to be a good friend. It took me a long time to stop giving too much of myself to people who weren’t doing the same for me. I always thought that it was important to be myself and give my all without expecting anything in return. This is true to an extent, but many people take and take from those who continuously give and the giver is often left with an empty cup.

I’m finally to the point in my life where I’ve surrounded myself with the people who love and protect me fiercely. When I was in this accident, I never could have imagined how those people would show up....In. Full. Fucking. Force. I’m not good at asking for help. I’m not good at being vulnerable. I take charge, get it done, and keep going. Right now, I’m unable to do that. Like at all.

So build your tribe and love them hard. Be the friend you should be and know that, when the chips are down, those friends have you, no matter what; friends who want to cry when they see your broken body but hold it in until they get in their cars to go home so they don’t upset you. Friends who bring toys for your kids and home-cooked meals for your family.

Friends who bring you fuzzy blankets and snackies and cat shirts and magazines and body spray for when you stink. Friends who bring you Chick fil a when they know it’s your favorite and you need some damn fast food instead of the shockingly delicious gourmet meals prepared by everyone else.  Friends who volunteer to shave your legs and wipe your butt and wash your hair - all of which I declined except my hair because damn. Special shout out to Erin-Says for breaking her back to wash this mane today and stare adoringly into my eyes while she did it.

To all of my people (and yes my Mer’s Life people - I see every single message/comment and feel your love constantly) - thank you. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to repay you for this, but I promise to always be the best kind of friend I know how to soon as I can move again. I love you, I love you, I love you. XO -Mer

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